Thank you to all who have shared condolences these past days. I so appreciate the kind, comforting words, the encouragement, written comments, verses, and hugs. Thank you, thank you, thank you!
Something that stuck with me happened at the graveside, my Uncle Verl came up after the service to hug me. Verl is my step-dad's younger brother. He gave me a long, strong embrace. I can't exactly say what all came to mind but it occurred to me in that brief moment that I would not be able to hug my dad again. . . and I said to Uncle Verl something like, "you are now in charge of dad's hugs for me." It was a good moment.
Now a connection to us all: Church family is not just to be a Sunday morning, show up, sit, listen, sing, and then depart. It is church "family" and that includes getting to know one another, sharing our lives together, giving time, money, and even a hug or two. You may not even like to hug but, if the other person needs a hug, get over yourself! The point is this: For an hour and fifteen minutes each week we are in a church-service that is very much about "me and God." The time before the service, after the service, and during the week is where we enrich our experience with the church family. Don't neglect those times!
Sunday school? If you are not attending, you should.
A life group? Ditto the above.
Wednesday night fellowship time? A meal you don't have to cook and time around a table with others? Seems like an easy win to connecting with family to me.
Sunday nights, men or women events, special work times, a phone call, a note in someone's box, a visit at the hospital, etc?
Every one of these enhance our lives and benefits church family. Yes, a few of our folks are just unable to attend or make many of these work. But if you can make any of these work, give it a shot. You'll be rewarded . . . and so will others benefit by your presence.
That's it. . . that is what that hug was about: Presence. My uncle was present in a very strong, meaningful way for that hug. Did it mean much? Nearly 70 hours later, I'm writing about it. Do your best to be present with others.